While I was pregnant with Lily, I came across a wonderful website, Cafemom, where fellow pregnant ladies connect and support each other during their pregnancy. At this website I met multiple other Junebug mommies who have kept in touch with through facebook beyond the births of our babies and my departure from Cafemom. These women were there to completely witness my pregnancy (even if only through the net) and gave me a large amount of support when I was going through my complications, L&T Triage runs, and many scares. Even though we have never met, I wish that we all lived closer so that our babies could grow up and be play buddies together =) we would have running and exercising buddies as we all work on getting back into our prepregnancy hotness, and have someone there to get into trouble together lol. How nice that would be! I wanted to send out a great big thank you to these women, because without their support I'm not sure I would of been able to stay calm inside about the complications of my pregnancy. So mommas... THANK YOU =D
One of the recent conversations that happened was the talk of future baby plans. It has really made me start thinking about what we will do, and if we will follow our plans that we have set. As of right now there are not any plans for another baby. We agreed that two was enough. We have our boy and our girl, so our family is complete.... or is it? Part of me still has that urge to have another baby. I've always dreamed of having a large family of 3 or 5 children (I have a think about odd numbers lol), and before we got married we had said we would have 3 children... 2 boys and a girl. Many women say that they have the feeling that their family is complete so they know that they are done, and others say that they felt like a hole was there so they knew they wanted another... but what about if you don't have either feeling? As much as I would love to have another baby, I'm not sure I could go through another pregnancy and go through the complications again. Sure there is a possibility that I won't have any complications next time, but after having two pregnancies with some sort of complications... the possibility is pretty high. As happy as I was to be pregnant and go through the pregnancy, it was emotionally draining at times to have to try to stay positive that everything would be fine.
It seems through no matter how far you go to prevent pregnancy, if it is meant to happen it will... so I've decided right now to just let life take its course. We didn't plan to get pregnant with Janko, and although we had started discussing possibly trying last fall for another baby... we were not trying with Lily either. Who knows, maybe life will surprise us again... maybe with another Junebug lol! If it does, I'll be happy about it just like I am always am =)
I'm so thankful for our group as well and I try to keep in touch with as many of you as possible!! I've been known to text with a few of the members as well (especially when I'm feeling lazy and don't want to exercise!) We are ALL here for each other and even though you're not on Cafemom with us anymore, you're still part of our group!
ReplyDeleteI also agree about the "feeling" that the family is complete. I am the same way, I don't have a feeling either way. I mean, it would be nice to try for a boy sometime in the future, but maybe not? We planned both of our girls, so somewhere down the road we will talk about it then. For now, I have an IUD. Only time will tell! =) Love your new blog!
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